In response to… me too

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Well, this is an idea I had about two years ago. I’m glad someone else got there and made it happen.

I think the idea of sharing our stories of sexual pain or attack as women (and men, actually) can be majorly healing. I believe that shedding light on the dark corners of our human experience always helps encourage healing; helps us connect as human beings. We are all having difficulties and challenges with similar things throughoutour journeys on this tumbledown earth.

Like many, I have been assaulted. The #everydaysexism is something so common, it is unfortunately expected as a given if you are a woman. When talking of assault, the idea that you might be upset or want to express feelings of grief for the violence, is often frowned upon.

Feminists are mocked for being possible rape victims with a chip on their shoulder. The thing is, is this not a valid thing to be upset about? Hundreds of women (…or is it thousands by now?) are able to say that it is.

I find the idea of sharing a scary one. Many may feel their privacy needs to be kept intact and sharing is not for them. This I totally respect, of course.

But for me, the values of Lana Wachowski ring in my ears as I see the feed on my facebook wall fill with a chiming solidarity between my sisters, as they vulnerably speak their truths.

But, as Lana says:

‘Sacrifice of my private civic life 

shall have value…’

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And so, here it is, my vulnerable, very human, expression of solidarity to my sisters and brothers: me too.


In response to… the trans ban

Well, it’s been awhile since I wrote and I just couldn’t hold it back any longer. Like Marvyn Gaye’s love for… everyone; the current was too strong. So let’s get it on.

We all knew this day was coming, well… many of us; that something crazy and stupid like this would happen. Following the people ban, and the idea of a big wall, this new development maybe isn’t as surprising as it should be. Just incase you didn’t know what I’m talking about, I’ll catch you up – here.

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For me, this brings about mixed feelings. Of course I’m outraged at the idea that Trump would decide that trans people are not worth the investment and therefore shouldn’t be allowed to fight in the military. In all of the haze of anger the figure of 15K current people serving are trans. I don’t know if this is accurate. But the point still stands, a minority have been chucked out where they previously roamed free. This is not ok. And it is a worrying step forward.

That said, if you have read any of my blog posts, you will know I am a pacifist at heart. I can’t help feel a little relieved at the fact that, if this happens, the army will be weaker. If the US army are weaker, will will be less likely to be attacked. War attracts war. And if there are less people in the act of ‘doing’ war, arguably, from this point of view, it is better for all of us. Less people will be killed by these people, less people will therefore, kill us.

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But on the side of human rights and basic human freedom, it is a sad day. My heart sinks for what this says to a young trans girl or boy, wanting to go into the world with full confidence considering the hostile environment right now.

As a feminist, I am aware of certain inequalities for women. I am also made more aware of inequalities in race and sexual orientation.

This is a sad day. The only ray of light that we can take from this moment as we move on, and we must, move on, because that is the only way progress is ever made, is to see all of the huge outpouring of support for trans people that will appear over the coming days and weeks.

Trans people are people. We are all people. We deserve the same rights. And we stand with you, side by side, through this storm. We all need each other, compassion and support from each other more than ever.

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So, be there on the ground. -Be there for anyone you know who is trans and might need support. Talk about it. There is power in words.

And remember, to always walk to the other side of the road when there’s a blazing madman there shouting at you. Don’t talk to him – just keep on walking.

This too, shall pass.

Marvyn. What’s Going On? The Tube.

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Peaceful promise

I’d like you to join me, in starting with this pledge to allegiance for peace:


I promise, from this day on, to try to contribute to peace on this planet.

I choose to live my life in a peaceful way, taking responsibility for my choices, and contributing to the cause of peace in any way I can.

I choose to see people’s needs and feelings, and to use language that contributes to life, rather than creating enemy images or dehumanising my brothers and sisters.

I do this because I know the huge impact just one (seemingly) small person like me, can have on other peoples’ lives.

When I think of all the people I will meet during my lifetime, I believe that if just a handful are touched by my peaceful ways, then I will have helped to contribute to a better life for those in the future, and I will know that mine was a life well-lived.

I want to stand for something. I want to stand for peace.




Maybe if enough of us say this and act upon it, maybe one day we will have world peace.

Please share if you believe in this, too.

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“From a small seed a mighty trunk may grow.”


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In response to… the Burkini ban in France: let’s take a step back

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A woman was recently held at gun point and told to take off her top by police officers.

I don’t have a lot to say about this. Simply put, this is obviously wrong.

The scary thing is, the questions that lead after it. Human rights are the basic foundation that Europeans can normally feel proud to call their own. And yet, if you are of a certain religion, these days, you are ostracised and shamed, what then? What does that mean? How did we get here, to this point?

The mayors who decided to implement the ban in a couple of French seaside towns argued that this was for the women’s protection. It would mean that they didn’t get any unwanted attention. It would mean that they wouldn’t look like terrorists.

A point well made by comediene and activist, Kate Smurthwaite, is that it is simple: When women are told that they must  wear something, or not wear something, this is obviously a problem.

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“This may seem like a shocking and controversial thing to say (on the bbc), but women are rational intelligent adults and what really we need to do is to make sure that they really have the freedom to make those choices for themselves.” Kate Smurthwaite

The same is said by the French Council, that basic freedom and liberty is clearly not given here. And so the ban has been suspended. Phew.

But then, why do I feel so angry about it all? It is easy to get very riled up. But, as a feminist, and a pacifist, reacting with rage to something, in my opinion, is never a good thing. And never leads to peace.

I take a step back, because, as Maya Angelou did when she got mad following the 9/11 attacks, I see that; ah, this is not the way to go. This anger, will only continue that circle of hate.

So, I take a step back from my initial reaction, and try to really see the situation, to really see the people.

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When I take a step back, I see the men who did this, I see the men who thought about making this ban on burkinis.

And I feel fear.

I believe I feel their fear. And, I could be wrong, but I see men who are scared and overwhelmed, at a loss for what to do. There are probably other elements at hand, but this is what I see. -Where to start when your country has been attacked and innocent people have died?

They are clutching at straws. They must know that this will bring no positive effects about.  Surely? That no results will be harvested. No lives saved, or brought back.

I feel the fear of the women now feeling they cannot be themselves or walk down the street without is being an issue of political defiance.

It is sad. It is sad for the politicians who are scared. It is sad for the families of those who have lost loved ones. It is sad for the women being pointed out, their symbolism of sacredness and what is love and goodness in the world to them, torn from their bodies’. And it is sad for the terrorists. Those who find no other way of being heard.

It is sad for all of humanity.

But, as with anything that is a mess, you can ask instead, what now? -What to do now?

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On a personal level, how can I show solidarity to my Muslim sisters? How can we connect, rather than segregate everyone in the country, no matter what their views on this matter?

I recently saw a documentary on Mahatma Ghandi. His unrelenting faith inspired me. His dedication to not reacting like brutes when in the face of violence and fear, how he led the Indian people to react peacefully, even when lives were taken. This is the only way I can see anyone ever getting to peace.

And so, I reflect upon my reaction now, to this sad event. And I can see that my first reaction of rage, for the autonomy of women, is not the most useful to me, or to the world. Instead, I see my sadness, and then compassion, as much more constructive.

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That way, I can say with a clear voice: that I hear you, my Muslim sisters, and I am not your enemy. I hear the depth of sadness of the victims, and I am your friend. And I hear the people with violence in their hearts, and I see the fear behind it. I pray for you.

It is all a very sad state of affairs.

This is a time, where I think, we all, as individuals, are able to consider our intention in this world. -What do we want to stand for? Because when we are clear on that, we know what we want to do. We know the direction we are going in.

For me, this is my intention:

For women, I wish the freedom of speech, equality and to choose what we want to wear. For men, I wish peace, so that they can find the strength to provide effective measures, to protect their people. And to the people, I wish kindness, so that even in these difficult times, they can find their humanity within all of this noise the world is making.

“Peace between countries must rest on the solid foundation of individuals.”

Mahatma Ghandi

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Peace, my friends xx

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